Others Keep Expecting Me To Pay For Them… What Should I Do?

If you’re getting tired of others expecting you to pay for them, there’s a good chance that you’re not the only one.


The first thing to do is be honest with yourself about why they keep asking. Are they just trying to get something out of you? Do they think that because you’re in a relationship with them, or because you once did something nice for them, it’s okay for them to keep asking?


Here are the common things that you can consider why these are happening to you, and what you can do in order to solve this problem.


Figure out why you feel obligated to pay for them.

A great way to start is by asking yourself what’s at the root of your concern or guilt. Have you been taken advantage of in the past? Are you worried about being manipulated if you don’t pay for something now? Or do you just feel like it’s a good idea to pay people back, even if they didn’t ask for it?


Assess everything and why all of these things happening to you right now. You are the one who can solve this problem. 


Have a one-on-one conversation with them about your feelings.

Get in a one-on-one conversation with them.


While I don’t recommend doing this in an argumentative tone, have a sit down with the other person and talk about how you feel about the situation. You may not be able to change their mind, but it’s important that they know how much this affects you.


If they keep expecting things from you and don’t pay back what they owe, that’s another issue altogether! In that case, I would recommend having another one-on-one with them to discuss your expectations for future behavior and repayment of debts owed.


Politely say ‘no’ when they ask you for something expensive.

Here are the things that you can do in a situation you feel that you’re being obligated to pay for them:

  • Be polite.
  • Don’t be rude.
  • Don’t get angry.
  • Don’t let it ruin your relationship with the person who asks you for the money (or whatever).


Make friends with people who don’t make you feel taken advantage of.

The first step to standing up for yourself is knowing who you are. You need to know what your values are and how you would like others to treat you.


A good way to start this self-exploration is by surrounding yourself with people who have the same values as you do, or at least people who respect them. This will help keep you on track and make it easier for others to influence your decisions in a positive way. Other people can also help provide a different perspective from which to view situations that may be causing stress or frustration in your life, allowing us all – me included – learn more about ourselves over time!


Angel Message Advice


I get it. It’s hard to be the one who’s always paying for everyone else.


You’re all about going out, having fun, and being generous with your friends and family—but sometimes you feel like you’re the one who ends up footing the bill every time!


Well, here’s the thing: people expect you to pay. That doesn’t mean they want you to keep paying for them forever—but it does mean that, if someone is expecting you to pay right now, it’s not because they’re trying to take advantage of you or get something for free.


It’s because they know that when they go out with you, they can relax and have a good time without worrying about how much money they’re spending. They know that you’ll treat everyone equally and make sure everyone has a great time—and that’s part of why they enjoy hanging out with you so much!


Nonetheless, when you feel that it became your problem and you feel like it’s a burden to you, saying “No” is always free. I know for sure that they will understand you. Keep going and do better for your inner peace. 


Prayer For Manifestation 

Dear Angels in Heaven, 


Thank you for always guiding my life


I pray that you help me with my financial problem 


Please guide me in how to deal with this situation and give me the strength to stand up for myself whenever a problem arises.


May you give me peace of mind all the time so that I can share my greatest love with my family and friends